When my husband spotted a pair of Mallard ducks in our yard, he stated how cool it would be if they decided to nest there. He was visibly disappointed when they flew away. Weeks later, while I was gardening, I spied the female camouflaged under a small pine tree. She sat atop a nest of fine down feathers. As nice as our yard is, it isn’t really conducive for a nesting duck. There’s no water or food in close proximity to her nest.
My husband asked if I was going to feed our feathered friend. Admittedly, the thought had crossed my mind. Tempted as I was, I opted to let nature take care of itself. Though well-intended, my actions would have caused the mother duck more harm than good—no need to attract other critters to her nest in a misplaced effort to help her.
People do this with each other, too. We want to make life easier for others, but unsolicited aid is really just meddling. Often, our efforts unnecessarily complicate things and add to the hardship of a situation. Politely offering support or reaffirming your willingness to help is sometimes the best solution. Jumping in without being asked sends the message that you can do it better, which isn’t helpful. We feel helpless when we can’t fix things for others. It’s essential to remind ourselves that meddling in other people’s business is depriving them of the opportunity to solve their own problems and learn their own lessons.
I will let nature take care of itself and leave our resident duck to hatch and raise her brood as she knows best. In the meantime, I look forward to fulfilling my offers to help others.
